I realized that I cannot go on being a victim, myself is all I’ve got, yet I am not taking care of her as properly as I should.

So what I did was to get my act together. I stopped wallowing in bitterness and thought of the first thing that could cheer me up. So I went out, walked on the park and enjoyed the fresh wind in my face. After keeping myself inside of the house for several days, this is what I wanted.

Then, I went to a saloon. I had a haircut, manicure, pedicure, a massage, and all the works. It was really great. I started feeling good about myself and realized that there are so much beautiful thing on this earth that to be dwell on the pain.

When my husband asked me to talk to him and asked for another shot at love, I gave me a chance, but not without giving my conditions. So I laid all my marriage rules and observing him becoming the guy I fell in love with in the first place . The secret that help save my marriage was to never be afraid to face your fears and face the problems head on.

There were moments where we would fight and I would feel hurt, because I feel that I am not taken seriously as I would like to be. After 2 years of being married, I was pregnant with our first baby. I was at my happiest. I felt fulfilled, because I believe that I am doing my purpose. It also gave me hope that my relationship with my husband would improve.

But it did not. He became distant and was not all that excited as I was about the pregnancy. I understand his actions as avoidance from the impending obligation that would burden him. I was patiently waiting for him to come around and be involved with the pregnancy. When I gave birth, he was not even in the hospital. He went out to drink. Again, I perceived this as relieving the tension from being a dad. He was never really good in handling any kind of emotions. He remained distant and he takes care of his own business while I take care of the family. This has been my role for years till I had my second child. I was always on the background. I exist to be seen, and not to be heard. I realized that this is wrong when I can see us living parallel lives.

The secret on how I save my marriage today was I decided to take a stand to be hear and make my presence felt. I took care of myself, and nurtured myself esteem. Once I command respect, my husband respected me and saw me in a different light. He liked what he saw. From then on my marriage became exciting and balance. This is how I save my marriage today.